Today, I certainly don't feel that my life is following my plan...so who's plan is it following?
My plans for going to the mainland to see my friend and my daughters has fallen through. Try as I might, I couldn't coordinate things on this side of the pond. My husband's appointment and his schedule are conflicting. I can get him to his appointment and even stay....the plan...or so I thought was that he was going to take a couch line bus home....as it turns out there are none. He wasn't going to tell me this....or so he says. We are in the mists of a disagreement...one that I feel backed against a wall. As a result I have cancelled my plans for the mainland...I called my girls left them messages, emailed my friend and left a message at the hotel she is to check into. I am feeling very bad about not being able to follow through. My eldest daughter cancelled a shift at work so she could see me and my friend, and my daughter is in no position right now to give up a shift. I have told her I will pay for her loss of wage for today. Then there is middle daughter....I told her I would be there to wish her a Happy Birthday.....and never mind how I have disappointed my friend.
So who's plan was this anyways?.....I make no one happy....especially myself....my husband and I are having words.......I certainly did not plan this nor anticipate it, so whose design was this? What is it that I am to learn from this? What could I have done differently? I like to believe we learn something from our mistakes or life's experiences....in this circumstance, I think it is going to take some time before the fog clears so I can see what it is I was to learn.
Oh by the way.....Happy Thanksgiving to my friends accross the border.....gobble gobble
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There is an old saying that "you can't make everyone happy all the time", but I think the most important thing is to make your self happy all the time. If mom isn't happy than no one is. Hope you have a good weekend!
My favourite phrase lately is, "This too shall pass. Make hubby a special dinner or something - someone always has to make the first move and you know who it usually has to be. *sigh*
Both the above commenters are speaking the truth -and there's yet another old adage too - "The best laid plans of mice and men go awry." Looks like that's the predicament you fell into there. Sometimes, regardless of how much effort we put forth, how much bending is done, things just can't get arranged and re-arranged to cross over everyone else's lines and borders. Time to regroup, kid. Who knows, maybe this just wasn't the time meant for you and your friend -and your daughters - to have the great get-together you wanted but when you do pull it together, it will be ten times better than what you had been trying to arrange this time. One of my favorite expressions to my kids when things didn't or don't go their way is "It will all be better before you get married - or married again." Sometimes I interchange those words. Makes no sense and yet, it makes all kinds of sense. It'll get better, be ok, is the message there. Chin up!
I'm so sorry things didn't work out as you had planned. I find that the more I try to plan things worse the out come, therefore I don't do much planning, I fly by the seat of my pants most of the time. lol
Except for my mom, yesterday went fairly well. The caregivers forgot the most important thing yesterday, which was to make sure mom had taken her meds! I think they forget that if they don't take care of her as well as my dad this bird ain't gonna fly.
What we would we do without hubbies to screw up our plans???
I figure if 80% of my day goes as I plan I've hit a home run and there always tomorrow.
I'm so sorry to hear that everything got messed up! As you say though, there is a reason for everything... after the fog clears *eventually* you will see the reason.
You know the saying, "Make a plan and God laughs".
Everything okay in your world?
Thinking of you.
*hugs*
Sorry the plans didn't work out how you wanted them too. Always seems like someone or something throws a 'monkey wrench' into it somewhere along the way! :(
Hope the issues with you and hub are cleard up ........'sooner than later'! I always feel at odds when there are issues between me and hub too!
Sometimes I think the only lesson we are to learn is that we are not in control!
Many hugs, my dear friend!
I happen to believe that God has a plan for our lives, "I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper and not to harm". The Bible also says that he knew the days of our lives before we were made. We do have choices to make and sometimes go about making our plans without seeking His will for our lives. Often it seems, that is when things go wrong or don't turn out the way we hoped. Even when we do this, there are lessons to be learned. I hope you will see some good came of your aborted plans. I imagine it will all become clear in His time.
Mama Bear
That seriously sucks all around.. im sorry things didn't work out.. i hope things get better, take care ok
Gee, I hope everything worked out and the reason you haven't posted is that you're just busy working - or even better - having fun with hubby. *wink*
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