Wednesday, September 05, 2007

Our Children


Yesterday,was an emotional day for me. I think it stemmed from the Heads or Tails meme and the theme for the day which was "School". After visiting many blogs and reading what everyone had to say, I got nostalgic and teary. Although I only have one daughter now who is of school age I was missing being there for her on her first day of school.

Like most of you, when my girls started school it was a big thing.....taking their photos and preparing them for the special day. It's so funny at the time I don't think we really appreciate what we have. We just see it as another day of rushing, getting the kids up and going, making breakfast and lunches, walking them to school and then rushing back home to do chores and so on. How time truly does fly. I can remember when the girls were little and their grandmother always use to say..."they are only little once, enjoy them while you can". I never really took what she had to say to heart until recently. Now that they are not with me full time I pine for them. I miss them so much. I loved hearing about their daily adventures or misadventures...I loved being there when they were sad. I loved watching them learn new things....but I didn't appreciate it then....I was just to busy doing what I thought I had to do.


How I wish I had gotten down on that floor more often and saw what they saw....or splashed in that puddle and let the dirty water get all over me and just laugh about it rather than thinking about the extra laundry it caused.


I have always loved September. Going back to school and the change in the season. This time of year brings back some memorable childhood events, the smell of autumn in the air, the crispness of pears and apples and my tin lunch box. Early September when the leaves started to fall I use to take the girls to the park and we would collect leaves and press them between pieces of wax paper and then cut them into shapes and make window decorations. It was a time when I started to use my oven again and bake pumpkin cookies and bread. I love the colours of the fall the vibrant oranges and yellows and reds. I loved to decorate for autumn, the autumn wreaths and the strands of autumn leaves would be strung around the windows or door frames and the girls were always there to help decorate.

So many fond memories. I am thankful I have them. I treasure them. For those of you with school age children, try to enjoy this time...it truly is gone in a flash. The bake sales will soon be a thing of the past, the cub meetings and soccer practises will be done and over with in a bat of an eye. And before you know it, they will have out grown those activities that you thought they would participate in forever. Their wanting to hold your hand as they skip or walk their way to school, stopping when they do, and admire that something which drew their attention. Yes it will be all be a memory before you know it.


Appreciate your little munchkin(s) for all that they bring to this table of life. It is their energies and passions that is our future let's encourage them and love them and thank god everyday for them.

17 comments:

Claire said...

I am lucky to have my nephews so close and i get to skip to his first day of school on Friday :)

Jeni said...

Boy, are these ever words of wisdom! My own "babies" are now 31, 34 and 40 and though it seems like just yesterday they were starting school, I am guilty of not being as participatory in their formative years as I should have been.

Yesterday, my little Princess - Maya - started pre-school, in a special program for autistic children. On hand to see her off as she got into the minivan, ready to roll, were her mother, of course, good old Gram here as well as her biggest champion, her Uncle Clate. She gave each of us big kisses good bye, shed narry a tear either as the van pulled away. But the three of us definitely were more than a bit teary eyed to see her starting off her academic life.

Anonymous said...

Ok, now you're making me tear up! Great heartfelt post!

Drew said...

Great post. I don't have kids, but it makes me think about my parents and how they must be feeling with me halfway across the country.

Anonymous said...

What a great post!

God didn't give me any children, but He did give me eight nieces and three nephews. I remember school shopping w/them and you're right, if you don't pay attention, time will take them away from you.

Now two of my nieces have children and I'm praying I'll be around to take them school shopping too.

Awesome post!

Debo Blue

Leslie: said...

My sentiments as well. The night before school started, I was dreaming of being back in a classroom as a teacher - the nightmare part was so typical of all teachers - couldn't find my classroom and then the kids all misbehaved! But I do miss it (the school). Now I'm starting to think about my little Noah going to kindergarten in 2 years and how I can participate in "his" formative years.

Baba said...

I love your post...It is true about when your kids are little, you what them to hurry and grow up,but you really miss them when they move away..Now that I have 13 grands, and another one on the way,I can enjoy them even more and share in their life. Thanks for sharing. Baba

yngathrrt said...

Hey, this is such an important blog and so full of emotion. I just read another one in such close relationship to this, which you can find on my side bar of Ms. Karens place. All the tears, emotions, but in different ways. Yet still the same in the long run.

I thought I had your email address, but I guess it got lost with the other things in my lost pile. I have tagged you on a memem of 7P's. If you do not feel comfortable in doing this, I totally understand. Personally I hate meme's and tags, but this one I thought you might really enjoy.

Please email me if you still have my email address. If not, one of your candy friends does.

Katie

Anonymous said...

Great post! My "baby" girl started preschool today. She was so excited and so grown up - just yesterday she was in diapers. Yep, goes to fast and doesn't slow down.

Crazed Nitwit said...

How was your first day of school?


I know all about parents remorse. LOL. Tell me your thoughts on college from your now adult perspective.

Hugs.

Martie said...

And that time doesn't stop when they are grown either. Before you know it, you end up with lots of grandbabies and they too, grow too fast. I am thankful for all the memories of my 5 children and my 14 grand children!!!!

Lovely and poignant post!

Hugs, my friend!

Barb said...

Truer words were never spoken (typed). You even made me nostalgic for when my own kids were young.

On my oldest grandchild's one week old "birthday", I told my daughter that as fast as that week went by, so would the years. She recently told me she didn't believe me, but now that he just started kindergarten, she does.

There's a song that was popular eons ago that I used to sing to my kids:

"Where are you going my little one, little one? Where are you going my baby, my own? Turn around and you're two. Turn around and you're four. Turn around and you're a young man (or girl) walking out of the door."

Anonymous said...

oh man, now I'm all teary again! lol Yes, it all goes by so quickly and I must say, I'm savouring every minute. This IS a most wonderful time of the year, I could have written your post as I too have such a love for the fall, the memories, it's as if the cool, crispness of the weather brings out the warmth and true meaning of family.
It sounds like you created some very loving lasting memories for you and your daughters.

Akelamalu said...

Never a truer word RN, but something I didn't appreciate until our grandchildren arrived. Now I treasure every second.

Unknown said...

I too, missed some of my kids childhood... But, I have doubled up on my Grandkids.. and the years are going so.. so fast... I can not blink or I might lose something.
Yesterday (it seems) I danced at my Daugther's sweet sixteen party--Does anyone still do that???

Now, my Granddaugther is 14 going on 40....and I have tears in my eyes as I know it will be tommorow and I will be dancing at her Wedding (Lord willing and my legs able).....

Crazed Nitwit said...

Smalltown RN~thank you for your comments on my blog. I am sorry for your losses so close together, it must have felt like a constant hurricane of grief. My grandmother and Brennan died the same day(she was 84) and my mother a year later(she was 64). Sometimes you feel slammed and overwhelmed and I thank the Lord for antidepressants as I did have 2 young boys to care for. I'm a fairly functional depressive.

My email addy is MamaKRB@aol.com and I'd love to hear more about your daughter and your mother, niece and sister. I think we could have much to share.

HUGS for you. JaniceNW

Dottie said...

Teary eyed and choked up. My kids are 14 and 12. I've tried very hard to participate because my own parents didn't particpate when I was a child. I love your blog.